Finding Your Marbles
A Mental Health Survival Guide

Since my original post on resources for rape survivors, 10 Things to Do If You Have Been Raped, I have received hundreds of emails from readers who are looking for resources that can help them survive the first stages of healing from rape. Since then, I’ve been searching for “first aid” resources, resources that can provide immediate support and help for people who are in a crisis and need help NOW.

It has taken a year, but I have found two resources that I feel are the best resources out there for rape survivors in crisis. They are both easily accessible, friendly, and best of all, they are provided by people who know exactly what rape survivors need in order to heal. Enough from me. Here they are:

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I recently wrote an article for rape survivors called 10 Things to Do if You Have Been Raped, and I received a few emails from men asking me if I could write an article specifically for men who have been raped, either as children or as adults.

Male rape is a strange crime. It’s usually the subject of jokes about prisons (don’t drop the soap), but the general public really doesn’t have a very good awareness of how serious a problem this is. One in six boys will be the victim of a sexual assault by an adult by the time he is 18 years old. That’s almost 20% of all boys.

The situation is equally as bleak for male rape victims. Most charities are not set up to handle male victims, and, while they are making very positive progress, there are still few police departments that are aware of male rape and are trained to handle male rape victims.

Add to that a shortage of therapists who specialize in male rape, and the various cultural myths and misconceptions about male rape survivors, and it becomes a pretty tough road for a guy who has been victimized as an adult or as a child.

In this article, I am going expand my original article on what to do if you have been raped to cover a few of the specific things that I learned along the way as a male rape victim. I hope some of them help you with your own struggle.

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